So I show up to a running group last night and go out with the group for a beer and tacos after. I don’t know anyone. I just show up with my dog, go for a run and chat up people as the evening goes on.
I initially walk up and chat with some girls and end up running with one of them. I didn’t realize that 10-10:30 min mile was that slow, but I got left, so it was nice to have a running buddy.
After the run I saw a guy with a shirt from my college, which doesn’t happen often, so I chat him up. He’s probably 10 years younger than me, but nice.
At the bar I walk up and start chatting with a couple married guys that were here on work, a cute guy with no ring on and the girl that I ran with. The cute guy was flirty and we chatted more than with anyone else. Turns out he’s also a diver and has his gear and dives locally, but hasn’t really found a buddy. He said he would totally be willing to go diving any time. He’s cute, fit and taller than me, plus into my favorite sport, diving! We exchange numbers and when I say I’m heading out, he waits for me and walks me out of the bar. He puts his hand on back and guides me out and chats a bit more outside. He gives me a hug and says he’ll check the water conditions and call me.
I am totally thinking he is into me and I’m interested. He texts me this morning to tell me about the next dive gear sale and what the conditions look like.
Let me just preface this next part by saying, I don’t normally do this, but I looked him up on FB. I just wanted to learn a little more about him. THANK GOD I DID.
His profile shows no information about being single or with anyone. There were pics from a couple years ago of him with a girl on trips, But nothing recent. He obviously doesn’t have good privacy settings. This is where this gets stalkerish and I hesitate to write this… 🙂 Here goes. He mentions the girl’s name in the pics, so I look in his friend list for her. HER profile shows pics of him as her profile pic and HIS LAST NAME. He’s totally married! She had a pick from two days ago with him and he is all over her profile. They work at the same company. I don’t know what possessed me to be so nosy today, but if I hadn’t I would still be excited to date him!
So explain this to me. Why didn’t he have a ring on? Why at no point in the hour or two that we were talking did he never mention his WIFE? Why was he flirting, even if I misunderstood at all, there was still flirting happening, I’m not that dense. And why is he texting and I swear being flirty?! Maybe I’m off my rocker and taking all this out of context, but seeing that he was married really caught me off guard. So something is off. I can’t be THAT stupid. I hope not.
So now, this guy is probably diving with me and another guy that I met on meetup, and I have to pretend not to know that he’s married. I really want to see how this plays out. I’m going to stop flirting with him and see what happens. But mostly I AM SO BUMMED! Damn it! A cute, runner who dives and I had a connection with. Fucker.
Here’s the other interesting part. The guy I’m diving with from meetup, randomly sent me a message through meetup that he wanted a dive buddy. Mind you, there are LOTS of dive groups, so I thought it was a little interesting that he messaged me specifically. We’ve been chatting and he’s been slightly flirty, but nothing much. He mentioned a girlfriend and said he didn’t think it was going to work out, but I’ve been treating him like a friend. I don’t do cheating. I thought it would be a little weird inviting the cute new guy and maybe meetup guy would get weird, but we’re supposedly just diving together and he has a girlfriend.
Meetup guy texted me last night saying he was excited to dive and would call me today. I told him about inviting new guy and there’s been no response. He’s normally pretty good about responding so…
This will be interesting. Both men are taken, yet this all feels slightly awkward. I hope these two aren’t really the huge douchebags they look like right now. If they are, I’m going to start losing faith in men.
Maybe there are some liars online, but I haven’t run into any yet and I’ve been on there for a long time.
So this is one point for online dating… YOU KNOW THEY ARE SINGLE!