For the first time ever I told a guy, to his face!, that we didn’t have chemistry and I wasn’t interested in going out with him again. I’m so proud of myself! Can you tell?!
Let’s call him Self-Righteous Software Engineer. It wasn’t as bad as the name leads you to believe. I knew the moment I saw him there was no way in hell. This will make me sound like the rudest person ever, but he is the most unattractive person I have ever gone out with. This is a dating service guy and man are they going to hear about it. He had a sallow complexion, really bad, yellow teeth, and looked older than his years, which are 43.
He doesn’t deserve too much air time, and this should sum it up. I am an educator, and his defining comment of the night was “It doesn’t matter if my kids have a good or bad teacher. Kids are either born smart or not, the teacher isn’t going to make a difference.” When I stated my unasked for opinion in the contrary, he said no, that’s not right. There were a couple other moments like that. Needless to say, he made it very easy to make this milestone!
I do feel badly for him. I don’t like to hurt anyone’s feelings, though really I said it nicely and I was just being honest. I always feel bad lying and then being a puss and texting how I really felt later. Better to just rip off the band-aid, right? Poor guy’s face fell and he bolted very quickly.
He asked for my number and I did bumble it a bit. I said something stupid about my matchmaker wanting me to be honest and I had never told anyone to their face this, but that I really didn’t think we had chemistry, that he was a nice guy, but we weren’t a good fit. It’s at this point he bolted. I admit the first part of what I said was rude and I wish I could take that back, but it was my first time! I do feel bad, but I practically skipped to my car I was so stoked that I had the courage to be honest! Then promptly went to my friend’s house for wine and a pat on the back!
So how many of us have reached this milestone together?
Feels good to be honest, doesn’t it?
Dating At A Turtle's Pace 